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I've attended N.C. Central University for almost four years now and I've realized that long-distance relationships are harder than my classes.
People ask me, "How do you and your boyfriend make it work?"
I answer, "COMPROMISE!"
I say it like that because though my boyfriend is the greatest guy in the world, as most women know, sometimes guys act like babies.
Some days he needs more attention than I can give him. I make him realize that at this point in my life, my studies come first. He feels I could communicate a little better.
After long heated discussions and crazy arguments, we always come to some sort of an agreement that makes us both happy.
In other words, we make it work because at the end of the day we know that we would rather fight with one another than see each other smiling with someone else. I know that I might sound selfish but that's the truth.
Other people ask me, "Why don't you date someone at your school?"
I simply reply, "No young man at the school has ever captured my heart."
No offense to my fellow Eagle men but it was either bad timing on my part or theirs. Or I felt the man was not my match.
I know there are some good men on this campus but for me they're meant to be my friends, not my lovers.
I was always told that I would find my soulmate/ husband in college. Instead I feel as if found him in D.C. working in a bakery.
The thing about long distance relationships is the give and take. Some days you get more, some days you get less — but if you feel as if that person is worth it, then do it. The days when the other person wants more than this is when the compromise kicks in.
My advice to people is to not make the distance be the determiner, because you can make it work.
Some advice: pick months when you guys will visit one another. My boyfriend lives only 200 miles away so it is not too bad. But if the distance is farther, your phone will be your best friend. Make sure he or she knows your class schedule and pick hours when you can check in.
You should also have a TV show that both of you love because it gives you a common thing to talk about.
Also send random text messages because people like to know you are thinking of them.
Another good idea is to get a Skype account! I say this because you might not be able to physically be with the person but at least you can see each other and it makes you feel a little better seeing your loved one's face.
When there is a problem, do not hold it in because ultimately, it is going to cause arguments.
When something is bothering you, whether it is school or the person you love, trust me from experience, honesty is always the best policy.
I am not trying to call myself a relationship guru, but I am just trying to pass along advice that has worked for me the past two years.
Long distance is not easy and we even had to take a break from one another. But in the end we are always back together, stronger than ever.
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