Save it for the one you love
Published: Thursday, September 8, 2011
Updated: Monday, September 12, 2011 17:09
Sometimes women we feel added pressure to do things by our peers we aren't necessarily ready for. The pressure I'm relating to is sex. We hear about it in music, read about it in books, and see it on television.
I know as college students you hear your friends talk about it all the time and although it may seem like the greatest thing in the world, just wait.
Ladies, if you are not ready to take the next step with a man, do not let him pressure you into anything you're not ready for.
I know it may sound cliché, but your reputation is one of the most important things on campus.
The quicker you let a man get in you bed, the faster your reputation falls.
I don't think there is anything wrong with going further with a guy — but don't do it with every guy who calls you beautiful.
Don't believe every guy who tells you "I love you" — or even "I like you." Sometimes it's not you as a person they are feeling.
Not only will your reputation be tarnished, you might get something you're not ready for — a baby. I think having a child is one of the most precious gifts from God, but having one too soon will make your life far more difficult.
As the economy plummets, it's incredibly tough to raise a baby without having your degree or help from the father and your family.
I know girls my age who love and adore their children but at the same time wish they had had them a few years down the road with a man they loved.
If you choose to have sex, please use a condom. Condoms are not 100 percent effective but they're more effective than going raw.
You could get not only an unwanted pregnancy but possibly a sexually transmitted disease.
There are so many incurable STDs: HPV, herpes and more serious diseases like HIV and AIDS. People always think it won't happen to them.
Then "BAM" like a hurricane, you are crying in the doctor's office. You may feel you don't deserve this, but who does?
You may wonder how this happened but when you think back you begin to remember.
Students, please don't become another of the statistics you study. I know women are not the only ones who get pressured, but we are the ones labeled whores.
My advice to everyone, especially the freshmen, is enjoy your college years and take advantage of the opportunities they bring. If you meet someone you like, great.
If not, do not think sex is the way to trap him or her. It's only one part of a relationship, not the whole thing.