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Over the past few months, the names of Alicia Keys and Fantasia Barrino have been tarnished. Mention one of their names and you'll hear: "OMG! Home wreckers." And, "I have lost all respect for them."
And, "They are so stupid." And, "If it was me, I would not even be in that situation." Guess what, ladies and gents?
You are not them, nor do you know every detail of the situation.
These young ladies are human and people make mistakes.
And what they did may not have been a mistake. No one knows what the men were telling them about their spouses.
Most women know what it feels like for their man to say that they are doing one thing, when they are actually doing the exact opposite.
It is mostly ladies who are passing judgment on these two women, which is shocking.
Most of you are the other woman.
You either accept it, deal with it, or do not even know that it is happening to you.
On the other hand, it is shocking, because you all (including me) forgave Chris Brown for hitting Rihanna.
Black women are so quick to forgive a man rather than trying to understand the other woman's point of view.
Women are giving truth to the statement, "It is a man's world."
But I, for one, am not.
If it was not for a woman giving birth to man, he would not be here, and behind every good man is a great woman.
In this society, men are on top, true, but they do not have to be.
It is only a matter of time before we will have our first female U.S. president, but this cannot happen unless we start asking questions and stop listening to everything we hear.
Being so quick to call each other names and pass judgement on one another is a flaw that needs correction.
I know this cannot happen overnight. But look back.
Many people doubted us as women, yet we defeated their prejudices and made it happen.
As far as I know, not too many people have sat down with Alicia Keys or Fantasia Barrino and gotten their side of the story from the beginning to the end.
First take the time to correct yourselves.
Then mentor a high school, middle school or elementary school student, so they will not make the same mistakes that you have.
Within our community people are in dire need of your time, so please do not waste it on nonsense, but on what you can control.
Just in case some fellas walk by and decide to read this opinionated section, this is not "bash men day," because I know that you all have had a woman break your heart.
(Tear!)
This is something the ladies needed to hear.
Peace. Love. Unity. Respect.
As Malcolm X put it, "To understand that of any person, his whole life, from birth must be reviewed.
"All of our experiences fuse into our personality.
Everything that ever happened to us is an ingredient."
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